Seniors Falling in Love
Seniors falling in love does it happen?
Yes, it does happen it happened to me.
I met an incredible lady while she was out walking one day.
We refer you to this article on interpersonal relationships on Wikipedia for a lot of general information. There is a section headed Life Stages which you may find interesting.
Ask yourself what are you looking for.
Are you lonely and crave companionship?
This can begin simply by looking for a new friend.
How Can You Meet Other Seniors
I suppose I am lucky as I live in a retirement community and the demographics of these places show that there are more females than males.
This is due to the fact that women usually outlive men.
Statistically, Widowers are dating on average around 18 months after the death of their wife.
There are many things you can do to meet other seniors.
Your friends, some of them of many years, can be a good starting place.
Ask their help. They will be only too happy for you and can arrange a social meeting with friends you may not have met.
Another good idea is to do some volunteer work where you think there is a possibility of meeting someone.
Join a group that is centered around an interest you have.
A great way to start a conversation is to ask a question about a similar interest or hobby.
You may like to start a part-time job where you will come into contact with others.
You never know who you could meet.
I guess what I am saying is that you need to get out and meet more people.
What Can a Relationship Lead To
If you are reading this I assume you are like me and was really needing company.
Love came quickly but not initially.
Companionship is important.
All feelings should be two way and not only from one person to another.
We do not live together but every morning when I wake up I am thinking of my lady.
As you get into a relationship you will find loneliness will disappear.
You will want to spend as much time as possible with this new person in your life.
I believe though you should not stop seeing old friends or doing activities.
You both need to have some space to yourself.
Your new relationship only has the bounds you and your partner set on it.
Open communication is necessary as in any relationship at any age.
You will find enjoying many outings and meals together.
Don’t worry if it is heading towards sex. You have set the bounds so you both know where to go and are mature enough to respect those bounds.
Many seniors say it is the best sex they have ever experienced.
Sleepovers can be arranged t convenient times even if it is only to enjoy a meal together and watching Television.
You can either sleep together or in separate bedrooms. Your choice.
This will be one of the most enjoyable parts of your life.
Of course, we all remember our spouse and are not trying to replace either him or her.
This is just another phase of our life.
We are all human and as such need the basic requirements that humans need.
Tell your friends what you are happy for them to know.
If they are true friends they will not be critical of you.
You know them better than others.
My Incredible Experience
This all began one fine afternoon while I was sitting on a bench seat talking with some friends.
This amazing lady walked past me and I knew immediately I wanted to be friends with her.
That was 12 months ago.
I walked after her and said Hello.
We had a talk for about 10 minutes and, as we were standing outside my unit, I invited her in for coffee.
During this talk, we found out that we had both lost our spouses within 3 months of each other and between us have 150 years of a happy marriage.
She said she couldn’t at that time but would love to call and see me at a later time.
Well, 2 weeks went by and I thought she had forgotten.
Unknown to me she had called a few days after our first meeting and I wasn’t home.
Imagine how delighted I was when she knocked on my door one day.
We sat and talked for 2 hours.
She suggested I go to her unit the next time.
That turned out to be the following morning.
Another 2 hours of conversation.
I gave her a peck on the cheek when leaving.
The Next Meeting
Two days later we attended a morning tea in the community restaurant together.
Upon seeing her I apologized for the peck on the cheek.
She said it was no problem and we both had a bit of a laugh about it.
I had not been in this situation for almost 50 years and the memory of those experiences had faded.
The Next Phase
Over the next few months, we saw each other daily and had many outings for lunch or just a coffee.
These were extremely happy occasions for both of us.
It turned out during this time she gave me a lot of very good advice.
I had so much stuff I would never use again so she slowly got me to declutter.
I am by nature not the tidiest of people.
Now my unit is generally quite tidy.
We decided we should go on a cruise. I had never been on one before and felt I didn’t want to go but went to please her.
This experience turned out to be so wonderful I wished I had taken my wife on one before her death.
We were now walking together around 3.5 to 4 km a day.
The walks were not rushed and during them, we would sit on a bench, have a cuddle and a good chat.
Oh, and by the way, there were no more pecks on the cheek now.
We have met each other’s children and their families.
Our relationship has been accepted by them.
There have been some very major decisions we made during this time.
As we are able to talk openly about any subject it was decided not to marry or move in together.
It was felt there would be too many issues for the kids after we are no longer here.
Our Current Situation
Our relationship is as strong as ever.
Unfortunately, I have had some health issues which have stopped me walking but am getting treatment from Physiotherapists as well as a fortnightly massage.
The goal is to get back to walking the distances we were previously walking over a period of time.
I do now use a walking stick, a rollator, and a mobility scooter.
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We do see each other daily but still do a lot of our own thing.
We both are experiencing a loving and caring relationship.
Our relationship is growing stronger daily.
Our Final Thoughts
I would like to thank you for reading this article about Seniors Falling in Love and trust you have learned from reading it.
My thoughts for you are (and I have no training in this area only a lifetime of experience) :
If you are looking for a relationship or even just to make more friends then get out and about and mix with and meet new people.
The future partner for you maybe someone you already know.
When having a conversation with someone new be open and truthful.
Tell the Truth Always and Never Get Caught in a Lie
During your conversations make sure you each are aware of the other person’s needs in the relationship.
If you need to criticize do so in a calm and private manner. When complementing it is OK to do it in front of other people and to be exuberant.
Know each other’s problems both medically and in general and try to help that person as much as possible.
Don’t let either of your ages worry you it is only a number.
Here’s a secret – I am 68 and my lady is 86.
I told my story with my lovely lady so that you can see what is possible.
We fell in love in spite of the fact that neither of us was searching for another relationship.
Be one of the Seniors Falling in Love and enjoy the ride.